Begin with a story
Values often become clearer through a lived example than a checklist. Share a tradition, decision, or relationship that shaped you, then invite the other person to do the same.
Stay curious about differences
Compatibility does not require identical experiences. Ask what a belief means in practice, how it affects everyday choices, and where flexibility matters.
Notice how the conversation feels
A respectful response is as informative as the answer. Look for listening, nuance, and room for both people to be honest without pressure.